I recalled not enjoying the newborn experience with my first child. It was a shocker for me as I discovered my life revolved around 24 hours around a baby. The loss of personal space and time was overbearing. I thought it weird when other parents told me to enjoy the newborn period because it will get harder when they start crawling and eventually running around! At that time, I could not understand.
Now, I finally got it. My 2 year old is indeed harder to manage than my second child (he is 7 weeks old). It was God’s second chance for me to enjoy the newborn experience. The night feeds did not feel so daunting and tireless. Perhaps the only hard part is putting him to sleep when he is over-stimulated or burping him when he has gas. I am counting my blessings.
Case in point – the toddler is more difficult than the infant. My husband and I have to strategise how to leave home with the infant in order to avoid a meltdown by my toddler. We use new toys to distract and calm him down. We discuss how to manage his regression (yes it actually happens!) in the form of whining at the end of bedtime routines and night wakings. He also acts out of the norm by sleeping on the floor close to his room door that we can’t open it. My husband ends up having to sleep in his bed on some nights. There could not be any other journey that throws us such unexpected surprises.
By God’s grace, there are second chances for moments we missed out. Re-live and relish.